The Need For Balance & A Social Time Out

The Need For Balance & A Social Time Out

Maybe There Is Such Thing As Too Much Fun

I well and truly feel like I’ve burnt the candle at both ends. You know that friend that will say yes to social plans 95% of the time, even the super last minute ones, well that’s me. The problem is, not being one to say no means I’m like this even when I have a thousand other things on my plate and eventually it often leads me to grinding to a complete and utter halt. I say this, but obviously work still needs to carry on, previously made social plans are still in the diary and meanwhile my mind is ready to switch off, I’m left feeling unmotivated and the most appealing option is to go into hibernation.

I think a big part of this comes down to not wanting to disappoint and trying to always be there for the people around me. When I say no to something or have to cancel plans I’m always left feeling so guilty, when in reality I know my friends and loved ones would understand, but I just can’t help feeling bad. There’s also the occasional fear of missing out and for the most part I just love having fun, so will rarely pass up the opportunity.

And that’s the thing, I do have a lot of fun. I can think of so many memories from this year alone that will set me off giggling just thinking about them. I’ve been able to spend some quality time and make great memories with some of my favourite people and I’ve had a lot of pretty cool adventures.

Whilst I sometimes do well with juggling it all, I need to remember that I occasionally need to stop in order to prevent me from eventually dropping everything. Saying no and easing up my social calendar is something I’ve never been great at and I absolutely love making plans, but it’s vital I get better at it in order to allow myself to have some rest and recuperation.

They talk about the work/life balance but I feel like I need ‘time out’ thrown in there too. I don’t mean stopping everything altogether, I just mean giving myself periods where I take a step back from social engagements and focus on work and me time, instead of trying to fit everything in all at once and eventually burning out altogether. This is just a reminder to myself that it’s okay to say no, it’s okay to not be available for everything and it’s okay to have those days that you might not have other plans but that you keep free anyway, even just to have a day for yourself.

Samio x

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  1. September 1, 2017 / 1:46 pm

    Love these shots of you. I’m really bad at saying no too. The other day on Facebook someone said we need to learn to make no a complete sentence and I could see their point of view. Feeling a little burnt out myself too.

    Hope you have a lovely weekend x

    • Samio
      September 1, 2017 / 3:21 pm

      Thanks Onyi. Yep, you and I both. Gutted I’ve not had chance to catch up with you either recently. I’m sure when we do get chance we’ll have a whole day chatting each others ears off! xxx

  2. September 1, 2017 / 5:32 pm

    Haha I am the total opposite! Social plans? Uhhh no. I am such a home body! I should actually say yes to more social plans. When it comes to work though, I can never say no to anything. So I can at least see where you’re coming from. Anyway, glad you’ve realized that you can’t say no and you’re willing to take some time and work on that. Also, I LOVE your skirt!! Where is it from? I didn’t see any links. 🙂

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

    • Samio
      September 1, 2017 / 5:52 pm

      Haha, maybe we could take some tips from one another and help create an all round better balance. And the skirt is from Topshop, I got it earlier this year. It’s now sold out unfortunately, so I had to just link similar ones instead, although I’ve noticed white skirts are harder to find now that all of the Fall/Winter clothes are coming in. 🙁

      Samio x

  3. September 5, 2017 / 2:52 pm

    I think you’re exactly right, and I’ve ironically got this down but I need to say yes way more than I currently do. I used to say yes to everything and then like you, felt really burnt out. Then I started getting in the habit of being OK with saying no and while that’s an awesome thing to be able to do guilt-free, I’ve gotten to a point where I need to get out there more and get a little spontaneity back- I think I need a friend that’s like you and will say yes more with me!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

  4. September 13, 2017 / 9:09 pm

    It’s so important to have time for yourself, and also learning to not feel bad about saying no. I’m learning it gets easier to do so as I get older. I don’t take it personally when friends say no, so I know that my friends will not take it personally if I say no as well (if they are real friends!). Hustle, but take it slow also so you don’t get burnt out! 🙂

    Erica
    http://www.eggcanvas.me

    • Samio
      September 20, 2017 / 12:52 pm

      Exactly and I like that ‘hustle, but take it slow’, that’s the best advice!

      Samio x

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